Whether you’re holding court at the poker table or leading a pitch in the boardroom, confidence isn’t just nice to have. It’s essential. And while some people seem to be born with it, the truth is, confidence is a skill. You can learn it. You can build it. You can own it.
Here’s your PokerDivas Confidence Playbook—a no-BS guide to showing up strong, even when you don’t feel like the chip leader (yet).
1. Dress Like You Mean It
Yes, how you show up matters. You don’t need to be dressed to kill every day, but wear something that makes you feel like the most capable version of yourself. Shoulders back. Chin up. Eye contact on lock. Confidence starts before you say a word.
2. Celebrate Your Wins (All of Them)
We’re wired to focus on what’s not done. Shift the script. Keep a “win list” daily, weekly, whatever works. Closed a deal? Navigated a tough conversation? Showed up when you wanted to curl up on the couch ? It all counts. Confidence grows when you recognize your own momentum.
3. Curate Your Circle
You can’t rise with people who clip your wings. Choose colleagues, friends, and mentors who fuel your fire—not your doubt. Feedback is fine. Constant criticism? That’s unnecessary “trash talk” that can hold you back. Build a support squad that believes in your potential even when you may not.
4. Talk to Yourself Like You Would a Friend
Your inner dialogue sets the tone. So drop the self-deprecating script. Start talking to yourself like someone you respect. Confidence isn’t arrogance, it’s owning your worth without apology.
5. Bet on Bold Moves—but Cash In on Small Wins
Stretch goals are great, but don’t skip the steps. Confidence builds through action, not perfection. Push yourself beyond what’s comfortable, but recognize and reward your progress along the way. Those micro-wins? Let them fuel you to bigger wins.
Confidence doesn’t just help you play the game. It changes the game. It makes you more decisive, more respected, and harder to overlook. It helps you advocate for yourself, hold your ground, and walk into any room like you belong there. Because you do.
Whether you’re bluffing with a weak hand or making a bold ask in a high-stakes meeting—confidence is your greatest asset. Learn to play it.
