“How do I ask for more without seeming difficult?” Have you ever asked yourself that question? Stop!
The notion that you might come off as “difficult” for seeking deserved recognition or compensation is a story we’ve been conditioned to believe. But here’s a reality check—do you think any man has ever said I don’t want to seem greedy, so I won’t ask for a raise, promotion, a new client, a bigger expense account?
Asking for what you want is not about being difficult; it’s a sign of self-respect and confidence. What will be difficult is if you let time, money and opportunity pass you by because you worry what people think.
As we navigate through Women’s History Month, let’s dismantle this myth and empower ourselves to step into negotiations and ask with confidence, rather than caution.
Here’s what you’re missing out on if you don’t take steps to improve your negotiation skills:
Undervaluation – Without asking for what you are worth, the cycle of feeling overlooked and undercompensated continues, affecting self-esteem, job satisfaction and growth.
Compromised financial health – Accepting less than what you’re worth diminishes both your financial and professional capacity.
Missed Opportunities – The failure to advocate for yourself leads to missed opportunities for advancement and personal development.
So master the art of asking for more and stop worrying that you are offending anyone. You will win by:
1. Claiming Your Worth
Negotiating allows you to break free from the cycle of settling for less. It’s about securing the compensation and recognition that align with your skills and dedication.
2. Building Confidence
With every successful negotiation, you’re not just building your bank account—you’re also strengthening your self-esteem. Realizing that your demands lead to positive outcomes is a testament to your value.
3. Establishing a precedent
Assertive negotiation sends a clear message: you know your worth and you’re not afraid to stand up for it. It’s about creating a culture of respect and equity, not just for yourself but for all women in the workplace. Remember raises and are not a favor. They are something you have earned.
This Women’s History Month, let’s change the narrative. It’s time to reject the outdated notion that asking for more makes you difficult. Instead, let’s view negotiation as an act of empowerment and a necessary step towards achieving gender equity in the workplace. By standing firm in our demands, we not only elevate ourselves but also pave the way for future generations of women to do the same.
Until next time, take care, be bold and bet on yourself.™
